This is 4 months into my second stab at quitting this irrational site. I had previously stopped using Facebook in March and made it to June. I failed miserably at kicking my addiction then. I don’t want to blame my boyfriend, but I’m going blame him (partly). I’ll be the first to admit I was hooked on the narcissistic drip. Like a cheap junkie, I started to chomp at the bit when Mike updated me on all the online activity. I found myself missing the interaction with all the wonderful people he told me about. Obviously, I eventually jumped right back into the swing of things.
Sometimes you just can’t quit a dirty habit the first time!
I also justified to myself that Redterrain still needed a social media presence. People wouldn’t know what was happening on the blog, or website. How would anyone contact me?
I had read back in August that many business’s that post content on their page in Facebook, often loose followers. People “unlike” a brand if they find it is showing up in their feed too often. It’s interesting that too much exposure from a brand would literally turn people off, surely we have the same effect on one another as individuals using the site, no?
This information prompted me to rid myself of the site, for good. I felt the need to rid myself of the subjection to endless gloating, baby pimping (ladies and gents please stop this madness), the breakups, farmville, and that goddamn baking game, recycled news, pinterest, and let’s not forget the FEES (it’s free and always will be is clearly bologna). It was pointless. All of this sifting through overwhelming loads of crap, was completely pointless.
Living in remote Australia has it’s disadvantages when it comes to your social life. I spend a lot of time alone. And although I was not physically with my friends, I felt close knowing I could look at their lives through Facebook. That’s pretty sad, if you ask me now.
In quitting Facebook, I’ve discovered something truly humbling…
Many people feel the same way!
My interactions with my friends and family feel much more intimate, and personal not to mention frequent. I actively hunted down the people I wanted to remain close with. I sent them an email to make sure they didn’t think I dropped off the face of the earth. I think of emails as letters. My heart glows when I receive word from my friends. I love my friends, and I miss them dearly. This has bridged the gap between us (even though it is massive and is literally the size of the Pacific Ocean). Emails and Skype have kept us close, while I can truly say that FB did not. Many people who find out I’ve stopped using the site (including Mike) all say they wished they could do the same. You can!
Instead of scrolling around aimlessly, or looking for attention (that’s all it really is), I’ve been more devoted to activities that allow me to connect with life. I’ve been playing basketball, running, gardening, shooting more photography, reading (and lots of it), writing, spending more time with Mike. I’ve not lost anything, in fact I think I’ve gained a lot more than Facebook ever gave me.
Secretly everyone hates Facebook.
If you’re sitting there agreeing with me, and have been thinking of deleting it for ages…What are you waiting for?
I say: DO IT.