Sickness & Parenting

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Despite the hardship, we survived with a little help!

Mike’s currently working in Western Australia, so we are managing on our own.¬†¬†His mum was a huge help and took our wee man for a night so I could recover. ¬†His cousin Sarah also came over for a few hours after the worst of it to help me have a nap. ¬†I am so grateful for their help, it was like having superhero’s come and save the day (especially with the risk of catching it themselves). ¬†It got all a bit much at one point after I’d been vomiting all night… thankfully they live so near and were able to help.

So we put on some music yesterday afternoon and danced to celebrate feeling well. ¬†I don’t think there is anything more liberating than feeling your body become so suddenly unwell, and then well again.

This brings us to moment number two.

Wesley, surprised me.

He took his first steps in the midst of dancing!  

He’s 11 months old this week and I had literally just finished saying to my sister Victoria that he might be a few weeks away from walking. ¬†It was such a special moment. ¬†I was truly so lucky to be taking photos of him dancing when it happened. ¬†These are the first steps to independence… ¬†It’s bittersweet Mike is missing this but soon he will be home with us again. ¬†I can’t wait for him to see all the new things Wesley is learning!

Right, now I’d love to know… Have you had to parent whilst sick and what was the worst of it for you? ¬†What’s your horror story?

Australian Musician – LozzySee

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Lauren, alternately known as¬†LozzySee. ¬†She’s a pop singer and reality tv personality, based in Melbourne, Victoria.

We met through my friend over Christmas. ¬†She has a hilarious sense of humour, and a habit of over sharing. ¬†She also has the messiest car I’ve ever crawled into (though I’ve been assured this has since been sorted – there was photographic proof).

This shoot was at Abbotsford Convent which features some creepy abandoned but reclaimed buildings which are right next to a quaint family orientated children’s farm. ¬†Turns out I’d been here before with Mike when we lived in Melbourne.

The strange connection was, a few months ago I’d seen a photo of a woman promoting herself in a music magazine in Perth. ¬†I remember reading “Up and coming….LozzySee”. ¬†The image stood out to me, as she was wearing kind of an 80 inspired workout ensemble. ¬†When we met over the holidays she was showing me some promo images, and I realised I’d seen her once before.

It’s strange how the universe put us across each others paths. ¬†Naturally we shot together and these images are the result.

www.lozzysee.com

www.twitter.com/lozzysee

http://instagram.com/lozzysee/

Why won’t I marry Mike?

Because he farts in the bed. ¬†haha… I jest!

This topic is contraversial, and personal for me. ¬†My thoughts are peppered (heavily) with feminist ideals, and in previous conversations I’m fairly certain I’ve offended a few of my friends and complete strangers with my strong opinion.

Before I begin, Mike also won’t marry me.

Everyone has the right to choose what best suits them and their significant other. ¬†If you want to get married, that’s amazing. ¬†I would (and have) fully support anyone who makes that choice. Screen Shot 2014-09-14 at 9.46.16 AM

We have been together for nearly 5 years. ¬†We love each other, and want to have a family together. We’re absolutely committed to one another. ¬†But one specific celebratory day in our lives does not determine that we’re suddenly officially glued together for life.

We’ve already made that commitment to each other each and every morning we wake up.

I want people to see that our relationship (and others) can be just as beautiful, loyal and meaningful even if we never marry.

We choose each other every morning we wake up and every evening we lay down, even if that means enduring some terrible flatulence!

Every single day of our relationship is as meaningful as the last.

Needy, clingy me.

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Recently, I’ve been a bit clingy. ¬†Correction, I’ve been an absolute nightmare (I’ve morphed into one of those creatures in your dreams that are after you but no matter how much you try to run and hide, and they are just always there…merciless!). ¬†I’ve got some sense in me to know that it’s becoming a bit of an issue. But for some reason, I’ve been really just wanting to spend every moment with Mike, and get sad when he’s away…and at the same time I can get quite grumpy when we’ve spent too much time together. ¬†How’s a guy to cope with that? ¬†I don’t quite understand it myself…

But it’s me…and so I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about it.

I’m thinking my mysterious illness is bringing me down and I really just want to feel comfort all the time.

Like constantly.

Mike has been a darling through the tears, the grumpy faces, and all incessant whining for cuddles.

A pure man of gentle compassion..

That is until we get to the grocery store and we happen to venture down the multivitamin section. ¬†He spots a bottle and proclaims “that’s just what we need!”. ¬†Mike then grabs multiple bottles and starts to throw them at me and into his basket…

“Mood relief Vitamins”. ¬† I bought some vitamin b just to see what will happen.

The photos above were taken yesterday, even though I was doing what I loved (walking and taking photos)…I still had a heavy fog of misery hanging about my thoughts. ¬†I’m hoping some vitamins and perhaps some positive thinking will clear out the fog.

What a week…

Tuesday a long time friend (my lovely, beautiful, Australian Emily) was due to stay with us for several days throughout mid week. ¬†I began the day of her arrival with a headache. ¬†Things quickly took a dive and became a living nightmare. ¬†If I could explain the feeling…

“Someone’s punched the back of my eyeballs, the retinas burn in lights, and on top of that a splitting pain sharp and erratic from the base of my skull to the crown of my head”.

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Here I am laying in bed in my misery…hahah.¬†

I sat through a meeting with my eyes closed periodically for half of it…and had to keep taking deep breaths throughout the day to prevent myself from vomiting (hindsight: should not have gone to work).

I was at work for half a day before I succumbed and took my leave to head home and hide from daylight. ¬†I’m on medicine to cure (hopefully) my lovely friend “mr stomach ulcer”. ¬†He’s back again this year… ¬†I’m not pleased, because this medicine causes these headaches…which can be quite severe and have sent me to the hospital previously.

Grrrr….

Anyway, it was hard my first day with Emily as I was very ill well into the evening.  Things improved the next day, thankfully thought I still was feeling a degree of pain.

I’m sooo so so so pleased we got to spend some time with my dear friend. ¬†While I was working for the rest of her visit Mike made sure she got to see local sights. Our last night we played the latest game of Mortal Kombat for a few hours (I think?) and couldn’t stop laughing. ¬†You can play headless or armless…which makes for a comical battle!

Well, I was bummed to see her leave on Friday morning. ¬†We’ve planned to fly over to Melbourne to see her very soon!

The one thing that has lingered on since Tuesday, is this crappy headache. ¬†I’ve woken up to day 5 of dull achy head pain. ¬†I want to shake my fist at the happy brain gods and force them to give my my happy brain back!

It’s such a shame that medicine that’s meant to make you well, has side effects that can certainly make you feel worse than when you started…

Even though I’ve got a bit of a bad head, it’s raining buckets out today (Saturday), and I’ve decided to change things up and get creative by… baking!

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I’ve just improvised with some ingredients, and made what I’m hoping has turned out to be a slightly exotic apple crumble… with coconut, almonds, brown sugar, dried fruits (apricot, currants, raisins) and coriander (in place of cinnamon as my lover does detest that spice!) ¬†It’s a nice comfort to sense the butter and sugar and spice baking warm as it disperses the beautiful smell throughout the house!

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